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I’m a fan of a well-made sandwich—most people are! And some parts of what you are saying sound like this: “I really love the place where I get my sandwiches. Almost every time I go to get a sandwich there, it’s amazing. In fact, it is only RARELY that I go to my sandwich shop, order a sandwich there, and find a dead cockroach in the sandwich! Only a small, recurring portion of the time have I been forced to bite into a dead cockroach when expecting a delicious sandwich. Things are swell!”

This isn’t to disrespect you, because frankly I’ve used the same line of logic more than once. But you have the right to hold certain expectations within any relationship. One of them is the right to hold certain expectations. Another is the right to live without fear of your partner.

by Sady